I wonder...

I recently came across an interesting article which baldly stated that there is an increasingly prevalent trend called "friends with benefits"...in a nutshell, friends who use each other for intimacy, or let's face it...a warm body in the night...& all this sans commitment...fascinating concept isn't it?

Someone brought up the argument that this kinda thinking is a sure indication of society's failing moralistic nature...in truth, I wonder whether realistically such an arrangement would work?I'm honest enough to admit that purely platonic relationships between males & females may not work for everyone per say...after all, there is an incredibly fine line to walk between pure friendship & deeper relationships...that being said, my question is...on a purely superficial level, the concept of "friends with benefits" seems ideal but as all things that involve the human heart, I suspect it's more complicated than that...therefore, hypothetically, if either party were to approach the other for companionship's sake alone...is intimacy possible without some form of commitment?or is this merely another way for the modern homo sapien to build castles in the air?*wry smile*

If I reached out a hand to you...would you take it?on my terms or would you ask for more?*faint smile*

Comments

[John KJ]

Not too sure. But I reckon in such situations. Boundaries, especially uncomprimising boundaries must always be set up. A straight open in the face telling each other that this is only for intimacy and not thought of pursuing a commitment. If not it's not going to work.

Hehe, Movies thought me, in the scenario theres a girlfriend who has a best 'guyfriend', the high tendency the best 'guyfriend' always had a crush or has a crush on the girl especially if he's still single.

But then again, there would always be the 'hopefuls' which would agree to such arrangement who still has inner desires for something more. Eventually that person might burn-out and get frustrated. :P

DOn't know if that helps. :D

[Rishival]

well,a simpler way to look at it is this. IF you like a gal as a friend and you have sexual attractions(mutual) but both aren't looking for commitment with each other and perhaps would rather something else in a would be girlfriend.hence,sex with a friend = friends with benefits.Nothing complicated.You just dont want the commiment(mutually) or that the attraction is there but not to the point of a relationship. You're still friends...and once sex gets involved it's a 'friend with benefit'.Nothing evil nothing deceptive nothing complicated. Only problem is should the feeling not be mutual. Whether it works out? hmm...yeah...but yes at times you get "hidden" feelings which complicate the whole thing.